Personally, I think people can do what they want provided it does not make them criminally liable and perhaps morally compromised especially if that was not the intent.
I believe women see things in themselves that they feel bad about and take steps to make adjustments so that they feel better; more comfortable in their skins. There are some who prefer to keep themselves natural, which is their choice, and so there is no make-up, no hair straightening or attachments and no surgeries.
It is a stretch to say people are deceitful if they make improvements to their outer appearance because that suggests intent. So I would have said to myself -
Hm, I’m going to deceive people that I have straight hair today. Or – I’m going to get my breasts done so people will believe I have an overflowing bosom. Who does that? I don’t believe primarily it is about others, it is more about themselves and their egos. Perhaps about the ego of a significant other but I doubt very much if it is generally about other people unless you are in particular industries and that is another story.
I am living my life based on the circumstances I create or that are presented to me and I never wonder what the world at large is going to think nor do I imagine that people would feel deceived by me. I never thought I was that important.
If you feel deceived by the things I do that is your issue, not mine.
There are many things within ‘society’ that we all can feel deceived by and I do not think it is what people do to themselves.
When I was a youngster there were many things that I questioned looked like deceit but I never made it an issue even though it made my decision to not take confirmation classes.
For instance, I had a problem for want of a better word, with people who were taking communion on Sunday and were involved in sexual activity without being married. That to me was deceit. Assuming that those persons were followers of the Bible, it clearly speaks against fornication. Baptism/confirmation is a public declaration that such persons would be following the principles of the Bible which means they would not be putting themselves in situations contrary to those standards. I have never been baptized/confirmed.
There are those who like to say that this is a Christian country and they can say that all they want but that is not my belief because according to the Bible there is only one way and all my life several ways are presented.
If you chose to be a Christian that’s fine but don’t judge others based off your choice. It’s like you opted to be a Christian and expect me to live the life you chose. I also am able to make my own choice and it does not have to be the same as yours.
There are many other instances that, if I cared, I could point out as people being deceitful but that is not my business and I don’t let myself be affected by them. I mostly try to stay in my lane. Yes, there are moments when I veer off the track because I allow myself to be affected by what others say and I dare to point out where they are acting or have acted contrary to society’s expectations. However, I have learnt that I don’t need to say anything about those persons because, inevitably, they themselves give up themselves to the public if the public needs to know who they are.
Society likes to focus on how women in particular live their lives and it is disconcerting sometimes to see women being spoken about and even shunned by their actions, some of which those same accusers were once guilty of. Memory, or the lack thereof, can be such a convenience. It’s like once a certain milestone is reached then it is convenient to forget the way they were.
Marriage for instance.
Wasn’t it deceitful to rush to get married knowing that you’re pregnant? That happens a lot in this Christian society. Wasn’t it scandalous and shameful to be pregnant and unmarried? Wasn’t rushing to marry before the baby bump started to show? To let the baby be born after the marriage, wasn’t that a cover up to deceive people who cannot count that fornication wasn’t happening?
As to the men who start other relationships and families while still being married, wasn’t that being deceitful? Doesn’t the Bible say that men should not leave their wives to make adulterers out of them?
I could jump to the conclusion that all those things were deceitful plus a few more that I have not mentioned, if I cared, and not in a bad way.
Again, people can do what they want as long as they are not criminally liable or they do not feel morally compromised.
According to religion we are accountable individually to God for our actions and we all have access to speak with him even though he knows what we are doing and why we are doing them; if we believe.
How we believe is also of utmost importance but that is another story for another time, but I daresay you and I do not have the same belief and this does not mean I don't believe in the existence of God.
Don't even go there!
We all believe what we want based on the circumstances presented to us.