It is really heartrending to know that women have to be going through these kinds of abuse from men who had pledged to love, honour and provide for them among other broken promises.
There are so many points and situations in our lives when we are most vulnerable and I wonder about the kind of men who take advantage, and also who raised these men?
It is my view that certain pockets of society side with these men including some of the women they abuse. It is not uncommon to hear a woman say it was her fault why she was abused or it keeps happening because he loves her. Furthermore, when the abuse starts happening and the woman is brave enough to report it to her family members, it is quite common for the family especially the mother, to tell her that he is her husband already and she cannot do anything about that.
Abuse is a crime.
No man has the right to hit a woman and the converse is also true and may happen more than we believe, but not as often as man to woman. Some of these men seem to think they own the women they become involved with even when they don’t want them anymore.
These men are more loyal to their male friends than they are to the women with whom they co-habit. Ever notice how their friendships last longer than their relationships?
There is a vein of hatred for women that runs just below the surface of any given relationship in my estimation and I never wonder where the hatred comes from when the honeymoon is over. It was there all along.
Based on this victim’s account, it seems like he has (this is ongoing) friends in the police force because for a long time they were never able to catch up with him and when they finally did, she had managed to retaliate. He made it to the police station first and despite the fact that she was badly injured and bleeding, and according to the allegation, the police was clearly on his side and threatened to lock her up.
Maybe the police needs to be taught how not to take sides, moreover, where these men come from that trample on the desire to be protective towards women?
Sometimes women hear stories of how badly a new beau had treated the women in previous relationships and they convince themselves that THOSE women must have done something wrong to get that treatment, and so they step forward in all their queenliness, to prove to their peers that they had the right formula to make a relationship work … until fe dem bahine start get bus’.
I have said this before and I will say it again. Women need to stand together more united than ever before to get rid of this scourge called abuse, because some of these abusers have maximum support from other men with the same belief that women must be owned and controlled and ‘a dem run tings.’
Men only run what women don’t and in the home it is the women who are the glue that makes the family stick.
So women, be careful how you are raising your boys into men.