I wish for her many good things and I hope she has a great life and a fulfilling, perfect marriage.
This now begs the question, what constitutes a perfect marriage? And who has one?
I certainly have not seen one that I can remember, even though I mostly see them from a distance, and is it possible in the true sense of the word? Or is that just a pipe dream where we set ourselves up for failure when we prove once again that there is no such thing as perfection?
There are marriages that started on lies, others that sprung up out of the ashes of a previous one and any number of possibilities, even those that started with both parties with a genuine desire to make it work.
Like many relationships, marriages go through hiccups, disappointments and general dysfunctions that can lead to a life of misery or abject failure in the divorce courts, and the fact is, it is the people involved in the partnership who get to decide.
According to a well-known Psychologist, both parties should get up each day and ask themselves, what can I do today that would make your life better?
It takes commitment, compromise, respect and genuine love to make it work and a deep desire to want to spend the rest of your life with your mate; the person you chose.
It is not easy for two people with different backgrounds and preconceived notions about what life in general is all about; therefore, the script would have to be rewritten for both parties to be comfortable, happy even, with the new terms and conditions based on the peculiarities that make up their life.
There will be differences of opinion, tastes and forms and it is in those testy periods that both would have to huddle and talk things through to gain common ground. Of course, there will be times when someone has to be the hero and decide that he (happy wife happy life) can give in so that peace can reign.
In conclusion then, I have determined that the perfect marriage is the one that survives the many curved balls; that forsakes all others; that panders to the original desires when it all began.
Therefore, it is with this mindset that I can indubitably wish for her the perfect marriage that will last as long as and until …